A year ago, after the loss of his father “Toñito”, he helped grieving people with a digital book entitled Forever Toñito. The text contains five steps to walk through the death of a loved one.
“This e-book has been written with the most sincere, painful but most of all loving experience”Ruales said at the time.
The first is “Dehydration”. Letting the tears come, crying that should be cried and accepting the feeling of sadness, that’s what Ruales brought out.
The second is the stage of silence. Or rather, it is another way of dealing with losses. “Silence must be respected and people who truly appreciate and love you will understand”says part.
What Efraín did ask us is that this phase does not last long because it is not the healthiest in the final. He tried to motivate people to overcome the silence and also reassured them by telling them that if they weren’t ready, don’t worry.
After this, acceptance comes third. Accept help, accept words, accept prospects. ‘Not always those words will light your heart’. And he is right in that, but it is trying.
As fourth stage suggested a recipe that worked for him. Walk with God every day. He said God was medicine, support, and relief.
Last, the fifth phase is vision. The moment to visualize seeing the loved one again with great hope. “That person you miss so much is now asleep, because to God death is like sleeping ”.
The text, written in memory of his father, now serves as a consolation for an entire country still mourning his departure and calling for justice for finding the perpetrators of his murder on Wednesday, January 27. “It’s about love, not death,” Efraín recalls on one of his pages.
The e-book is free to read here. (I)