DEAR ABBY: I had a friend that I would talk to every day while doing my deliveries for work. We had between six and 25 conversations a day. For months it was never a problem. Suddenly I got blocked from her social media and her boyfriend (my husband’s good friend) messaged me to leave her alone!
I felt blinded because it came out of nowhere with no warning or any discussion between her and me about the amount of time we were talking.
They are using my Disney + streaming service and I feel like they are taking advantage of me. I am no longer allowed to come to their house or talk to her, but my husband is always welcome. I pay for the Disney + from my personal money. Would it be so bad if I delete her from my account and change my password? – SPOKEN UP IN OHIO
BEST TALK: Talking to someone 25 times a day was an exaggeration. Your girlfriend had things to do besides keep you company on your route. It’s possible that instead of telling you it had become too much for her, she complained about it to her boyfriend, and he decided to take action on her behalf.
The way this has been handled is regrettable. It is also regrettable that your husband continues to associate with them while you are disfellowshipped. Since the friendship is now over and the streaming account is paid for out of your personal money, I see no reason why you shouldn’t revoke her access to it.
DEAR ABBY: My brother says whatever he wants without regard for anyone else’s feelings. He brags that he doesn’t have health insurance and says his doctors will see him for $ 10, which, believe it or not, they do. He brags that he has no life insurance policy and says his children will face his funeral expenses when he dies. He’s spent thousands on the house he recently bought, so money isn’t the problem.
He doesn’t believe in giving gifts, or even sending a card. He’s my only sibling, and over the years I’ve given him more than you can imagine. On a recent visit to pick up something he asked my husband for, he started insulting me without provocation. It escalated that he was calling me various vulgar names. I entered the house to avoid confrontation. What do I have to do to put my brother in his seat so that he stops? – SISTER OF A REAL
DEAR SISTER: Stop tolerating! Don’t give your brother more things or do him any favors. Make a conscious effort to spend less time (or any time) in his presence. It should be clear that your efforts have not been appreciated, so do yourself a favor: spend time with people who do treat you right, appreciate what you do for them, and reciprocate.
DEAR READERS: On this day of love, I want you to know how much I appreciate the relationship I have with you. I wish you all a happy Valentine’s Day. … WITH LOVE, ABBY
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